Last night i was as usual going through news and other websites to stay alert on what was happening at the parliament. I read this article about a Facebook page #shamethem.
This page is a must read. I went through all the articles during last night itself. It was almost ‘addictive’ to read the stories and i got so into this that today i have new perception on things that i might have done wrong till now.
This page is about the encounters, well incredibly hard encounters, by women; mostly women in Mauritius.
The first post reminded me of a few friends or acquaintances in some cases.
My Sister is a lawyer who took the path of corporate rather than some of her friends who went towards Criminal Law. I remember one of her friends was working on some criminal cases and noticed he was quite disturbed about his first case he was working on. After a couple of drinks, he finally spat it all out. It was about a 5 months old baby girl who got severe vaginal damage following constant acts from her Father. Yes! FATHER!!! I was shocked. That feeling of how could a father do this to his daughter, baby daughter. it was as if someone bashed my head a couple of times, to make me realise that i do not live on a paradise island after all.
I used to read articles on the 5-plus newspapers and some of them were disturbing. But the most disturbing ones are the ones that are not public. For obvious reason that it could ruin a life of someone.
#shamethem are statements and real life experience that some ladies went through or still going through.
It used to annoy me when i see guys on the street, whistling, singing or making comments to women passing by. I always thought how could a girl find that attractive. It must work! You always see these kind of guys well surrounded with chicks, so obviously it should work. I still see some of my friends honk when they see a good-looking girl or just a nice ass. So why do they do that? #shamethem. made me realise, what it should feel like to be on the other end at least for most women. A simple honk, pointless whistle, and an ineffective comment, would make a lady feel so sick, nauseated and disgusted.
To notice that these women face that trauma for years, damaged and unable to speak to anyone about their horrible experience. These statements made it realise that we fight to gender biased, we fight for equal right, but is it a lost cause when there are so many perverts on our streets.
I have not written in here for a while but when i saw this Facebook page, i thought it was something i had to share and hopefully it will change perception of men, educated men.
Do we solve this by educating or by legalising prostitution? By punishing offenders or by asking women to fight back?