Family = Responsibilities = Scary

As a proud Mauritian and a Hindu, we grew up in a society and mould into a culture to respect our elders. Its tatooed on us, that that elders are always here to guide us and in return we have to be respectful. In my family, we greet (Namasté or Pranaam) and kiss (cheeks of course) our elders.

But have you ever thought that how will you be able to support your parents or grand parents when you are required to step up? How are you supposed to be able to provide financially to your family?

Although it is with great pride that the older one gets, the more he/she contributes to the house if you are still living with your parents. I got to hand it to you ladies, you have stepped up. Before this role was dedicated to the sons or the youngest brother, but i have noticed that my cousins, stepped up when it was needed too. And gotta say, proud that you ladies have.

I have been struggling to be honest to make time for my parents and grand mother. We do live around 45 minutes away from each other but it has been tough when Kehaan turned up in our life. It was a big change for me and having to juggle with the kiddo, work and my home, i do feel bad not being able to spend more time with my parents.

Nowadays, providing for one home, takes quite a lot from your salary, and what scares me is that, what happens if i am put into a situation where i have to provide for 2 families.

My parents have taken into account that they have to have retirement funds but i would imagine how it would have been if they did not anticipate that.

We are all starting to get settled in our 30s. Right at the age i am today, my dad had his own car, and built his own house and had one kid already. i am keeping up in a way but he was supporting his parents while doing this all along.

Isn’t that scary to think that it only a matter of time to step up. I think it is. And not that i take it as a burden. Not at all but it think of how busy i am already and how i will be able to manage this.

I would like to hear from you guys a bit. Awaiting for your comments, even if you prefer a private message to share your views.

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One thought on “Family = Responsibilities = Scary

  1. Hello Ken
    First of all you dont have to feel guilty for not having time to look after your parents’i guess every one is facing the same situation ……I have 2 kids not to say 2 adults.Nihal is 22 yrs and Sneha almost 20 yrs but still i have to find time to see my dad. They both have to attend their courses during weekend,i have to make time between their revision works and exams. Even if Nihal is a working man i have to take care of all his needs during the week and of course that of my husband.
    As far as not living with parents anymore i think its our choice,My dad built his own house before he got married in 1971,he never lived with his parents after his wedding.
    After my wedding i lved in my own house@Port louis but with other family member in the same yard and after 18 yrs i moved to Coromandel because we needed a bit of more space and privacy.
    Its just the begining for you.as Kehaan will grow older you and Archu will have to find more time for him…
    Time is the only factor that is influencing our ‘mode de vie’…..
    Sometimes i wish i could live for 48 hrs in a day even if im a housewife….
    I hope my words will help you a little bit.

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